By Andrea Gonzales
There are make-it or break-it moments that pop-up in long term relationship but before you start discussing the difference between ivory and egg shell for wedding dresses you might be discussing it for wall paint. According to US Census, “between 2009 and 2010, there was a 13 percent increase, (868,000) in the number of opposite-sex couples who were cohabiting. In 2009, there were an estimated 6.7 million unmarried couples living together while in 2010 there were 7.5 million” (2010).
The summer months have brought up this question for my boyfriend, Connor and I. It just so happens that Shane, his twin brother, is leaving toMartha’s Vineyard for a summer employment opportunity and subletting his room in the apartment he shares with Connor and four other friends. At the same time, I was looking to stay in Boston due to a job. It seemed like a natural fit until I brought it up to a few girlfriends who strongly opposed–
“Don’t you need your space!?” –Kristen Stewart of Emmanuel College
“You two will definitely get sick of each other, no question!”–Christina Konstantopolous of MCPH
There feelings certainly reflect what many believed twenty or 25 years ago,“…if you were cohabiting and then married then, the marriage was more likely to dissolve and end in divorce,” says Jay Teachman, a sociology professor at Western Washington.
“Today, that’s not the case. You can cohabit with your spouse and not experience increased risk of divorce. We’re making these finer distinctions that we didn’t make before.” “The nature of cohabitation has changed”. (Jason, Sharon. Living together no longer ‘playing house’, USA Today 2007).
(Barbie and Ken, Toy Story 3. 2004.)
So why are more couples deciding to move in together before hitting the alter? Rose Kreider of the Housing and Economic Statistics Division, believes it is due to the economic recession, and that the length of unemployment. “The fact that a higher proportion of new couples are younger may also make it difficult for them to find jobs in a tough economy when older workers with more skills are also looking for jobs” (Kreider, Rose. US Census. 2010).
Cheaper rent at another location is exactly what kept Connor and I from NOT moving in together (and possibly some fear from friendly advice). The two of us being the clever people we are, found a solution and are living a street down from eachother to remain close while still giving eachother some space.