Clinging to each other is not healthy, but giving space when it is due, is.

Talking all the time. Saying things like, “Man I miss him. I wonder what he’s doing. Let me call him.” Then an hour goes by and you think, “Let me call him.” Five hours later and you think, “Let me see how he’s doing.” Stop right there’ take a step back and think about what are you doing.
Ask yourself: Is this healthy? My point is this, there’s nothing wrong with talking to your significant other, but when it’s every second, minute, and hour, then you’ve got a problem on your hands.

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You’re not allowing each other time to breathe. It’s alright to talk to each other, but sooner down the line if not both, one of you will get sick of the other person. You need time to take care of you. Also, you need time to allow them to miss you, and vice-versa.

We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. ~ Max de Pree

Like BR states, a relationship needs autonomy. When you’re in a relationship, space is not a bad thing, it’s actually a good thing. You’re giving yourself time to breath; and when you do see each other, it’s time well spent.

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